By Sandra Jean Charite
The young couple constantly fasted, prayed, and meditated on God’s Word. Having been married for five years and shared many accomplishments among them in their careers, there was still a huge hole in their marriage that neither could fill.
Each time he smiled, she pretended to exchange a smile in return. But, deep down she knew that the one thing he wanted, she was unable to give him. She was barren. But she longed to have a child that she could wrap inside her arms. Despite her efforts, in spite of her relentless faith, it seemed like God had forgotten her and the prayers she and her faithful husband had laid on the altar.
How could the God who knows every hair on our head forget us? I have asked that question numerous times. There have been times when it seemed like my prayers don’t meet him in time and fear circulates in my mind. I have wondered, “Did I say the right words?” “Did I commit a sin that had shunned me from mercy?” or “Did he even hear me?” Trust me, I know it’s frustrating. Honestly, I have shared similar thoughts, like the young couple. I’ve spent nights quoting scripture: “He will never leave you nor forsake you,” (Deuteronomy 31:6), all while doubt rented a room in my house and my faith wavered.
When we are faced with the difficult situations in life, we are prone to believe that we have been forgotten by the Most High. Our prayers that we have laid at the altar seem meaningless. Maybe the husband didn’t come before you turned 30, or you have endured six months of unemployment yet no possible job prospects, or your womb is still barren, or the business that you’ve been dreaming about has yet to be established, or the college degree is hard to acquire.
Though we don’t serve God for such things, I always thought he would answer my requests when I made them. In my own situation, I applied to hundreds of jobs only to be left with zero interviews and callbacks. Undeterred, I advanced my education only to be told that I was now overqualified. See, I operated in faith and included the works; yet, the battle to find stability in my career seemed endless. So, yes, like many of you, I felt abandoned by God because I followed the rubric, but failed to reap anything I’d been sowing. His promises seemed to be on the other side of the country and I had no access to them.
Interesting enough, Isaiah 49:15 states that “Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you!” What a promise from God! At times, it would seem like God has amnesia and is blind to our pain, deepest desires, circumstances, seasonal opposition, and essential needs. However, I reflect on Joseph in the book of Genesis because through it all God remembered him. Joseph was sold into slavery by his brothers, thrown into jail, wrongfully accused of rape, and then imprisoned again.
Just when it seemed like Joseph caught a break by interpreting the dreams of two of his fellow prisoners, he was forgotten by the ones he helped. Yet, God did not forget. The king was having bad dreams, and the cup bearer, who Joseph previously interrupted his dream, remembered Joseph’s gift of interpretation. The king requested for Joseph and Joseph gave the interpretation. For his wisdom, Joseph was made a ruler in Egypt, second only to the king.
Joseph, who went from being imprisoned to being made a ruler over Egypt, was not forgotten by God. So, how can the same God forget us? “For the LORD will not abandon His people nor will He forsake His inheritance” (Psalm 94:14). No matter what we go through or how hard these trials seem, God is faithful. He is not a deadbeat dad. Yes, some blessings are delayed, but not denied. Patience is critical to receiving His very best. He will never leave nor forsake you and will always remember his children.